The Loss Continued

When a woman discovers that she has had a miscarriage before it has actually taken place, she is given several options:

1. The right to disbelieve the doctors, request an immediate blood sample. In this case, the woman's blood will be tested again in a week to see if there are any changes in the level of her hormones. Make a decision based upon the results of the second blood test.
2. The right to wait and see if her body will naturally "eliminate" the tissues. This could happen rather quickly after discovering she has had a miscarriage, but in some cases, can take over a month.
3. Take pills to induce the body to eliminate the tissues.
4. Schedule a "D and C" (Dilatation and Curettage). An D&C is an invasive but common surgery procedure where the woman's cervix is dilated and the physicians actually go into the uterus with tools to remove the tissues.

After our doctor told us what our options were, she strongly suggested taking some time to decide which option would be best for us, and to then check in with her within a few weeks. This is not an easy decision to make. Colter and I spoke much about "if" this happens, then "that" is what we'll do. In the end, it didn't matter so much about which option would be best medically speaking rather, which option will be best for me considering how each option would affect me emotionally.

After consulting with Colter, close friends, and of course, my mother we decided to wait a few weeks to see if my body would begin the elimination process on its own. If it did not, then we would take the pill to induce. Of the options listed above, we felt that the pill would be the second least invasive option. I do not want to have surgery for this however, there is always a possibility that any of the above options can lead to the necessity of a D&C procedure.

Fortunately, on the day I was going to take the pills, my body began the process on its own, for which I am very grateful. Now it's just a waiting game...hopefully I will be recovering by this weekend or at least by early next week.

We have decided based on this experience that if we are to become pregnant again we will probably not tell anyone except for our immediate family until we have reached the 12 or 14 week mark (when the possibility of miscarriage dramatically decreases). We are glad that we shared with our close friends and family this time around but, it was difficult to tell them all that we had a miscarriage when everyone was so excited about our "good" news.

For now we are sitting tight, keeping hope and faith that we will be parents someday whether by birth or adoption. We are staying in and keeping warm despite the second blizzard to dump almost 2 extra feet of snow in Charm City. :) Last night I had my first glass of red wine in 3-4 months. It was so delicious....

If anyone reading this has any questions, please feel free to contact me. As always, thank you for reading and take good care.